The noise of Loved Ones,
the Quiet of a rainy day.
The noise of Loved Ones,
the Quiet of a rainy day.
Ladies, you know for most of us we dread the dressing room. It is this dingy horribly-lit private place to look at your body from all angles whilst knowing half the clothes you brought in will probably not fit well, and you foresee at least two more trips back in your shopping future . You held them up at the rack, you chose the sizes you normally wear, yet when you go into that dressing room…
On this occasion I’m standing in the dressing room at Target about to try on jeans. They’re a brand I already have a few pairs of so I’m feeling hopeful. I had the size I usually wear and one size up. I decided to try on the bigger size first because I thought they’d be bigger, and that would feel good.
It didn’t. They were insanely tight! I did the standard squats to see if they’d loosen up a bit but they stayed sticking to my skin. I checked the tag to see if I misread the size, but the bigger number stared back at me.
And then I felt bad.
I peeled the jeans off and frowned over at the smaller-sized pair. I told myself to try them on anyway. Maybe if I could squeeze into them to feel the discomfort of the tightness it would motivate me to change my ways immediately. I could scold myself mentally as well while I stared in the mirror. A kind of punishing act I guess?
They fit perfectly.
I shook my head and chuckled at my reflection.
I was so amused by what happened that I immediately posted to my Facebook women’s group about my experience and the troubles of shopping for clothes. There were comments upon comments with women sharing similar points of view.
It is all those thoughts that go on in our mind when we look into the mirror, and feel confused about what we are trying on. It’s that confusion that makes us doubt, and the doubt that can turn into negative thinking.
I decided it was time to get out of there, and with another light laugh I left my negative thoughts in the dressing room.
I waved goodbye to my insecurities, and doubts. Because I understood that it was ridiculous for me to make sense of how I felt about my body based on clothes that didn’t make any sense when on my body. Made by people who may not generally come down to the dressing room, and make sense of the average female’s experience alone in there.
I decided that in the future, any decisions I came to around where to take my physical appearance would not be made in the dressing room.
And then I felt good.
30 Things on Womanhood
“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”
― Coco Chanel
1. In the beauty department we have an endless amount of choices-painted nails or not painted, jeans or skirts, or both!
2. Our presence can be of great comfort to anyone because we wear our hearts on our sleeves; at least many of us do.
3. We live longer.
5. Girl-friendships…need I say more?
6. As difficult as it can be to reach that point of fully resonating with our worth and potential once we get there-we are unstoppable!
7. We pay less for car insurance.
8. We say what we mean and we mean what we say.
9. Becoming single is almost always a guarantee we will to improve ourselves. Both internally and externally.
10. Often we know before we know, and then when we realize we know, we are 100% certain of what we know.
11. We have doors held open for us. A small but simply sweet gesture we get to experience on hopefully many occasions.
12. We make our loved ones feel safe in a different way that stems from a place of nurture.
13. Cooking is now optional. Wear the apron or order in!
14. If you look up a woman’s love in the dictionary it SHOULD have the word “loyal” somewhere in there…
15. We are considerate, even when we don’t have to be.
From followers via Facebook and Twitter:
1. “I like our nurturing caring nature. Our ability to put our children before us.“~Jennifer
2. “I’m wary of gender stereotyping, BUT in my experience…we seem better at nurturing, putting the well-being of others first (especially family), multi-tasking, plus empathy and finding things! But in terms of nature (vs nurture), I am most grateful for my basic biology. I would have been sad to miss out on pregnancy and breast-feeding my babies.” ~Anjali
3. “I also love our ability to multi-task like a goddess, even when we are running on empty!” ~Helen
4. “A woman’s strength knows no boundaries. It is limitless in the time of need. For herself, for her family, for others.” ~Marissa
5. “Curves.” ~FB
6. “We can carry a whole other life inside of us then feed from our bosom, pretty incredible if you think about it. Maybe one day I’ll know first hand…” ~Nickie
7. “As a woman, we know without being told or understood how strong we are. Look at what we have to endure during childbirth. Even if you haven’t had kids of your own, you are still capable of immortal strength. Also the range of our compassion is boundless because we can be tough as nails or soft and pliable depending on the situation. Being a woman is the best gift I have ever been given in life because my legs looks damn good in my 4″ heels.” ~Rochelle
8. “Make up play! (being able to hide flaws if we want).” ~Krista
9. “I can wear a bunch of different hats and that is really fun! I am always me but have options on how that shows.” ~Twitter
10. “Sometimes we are judged for tears but for the most part I can cry whenever I want and it does not make me look like less of a woman!” ~May
11. “I agree with Nickie . It is pretty freakin awesome that we could grow another human being and be their main food source for 6+ months. We create life and that life depends on us to live.” ~Vanessa
12. “Boobs! Come on who doesn’t like boobs they serve so many purposes lol.” ~Twitter
13. “Women know how to get the party started. They also know how to plan and end the party.” ~Hub Pages
14. “It’s just nice to feel beautiful and we can make that happen in so many different ways.” ~Jas
15. “EVERY WOMAN…SHE IS ME, SHE’S BOLD AND STRONG, AND LOVE CREATES HER DESTINY! I AM SHE, AND SHE IS ME!” ~Christine