The Exorcism of Clenched

There is a young child I am working with right now that perfectly portrayed one night, exactly how I had been handling recent stress at certain points throughout my daily life.

He had a meltdown I could relate to on an almost spiritual level.

You see, I am this kid’s pusher. I am the one who celebrates his abilities while pushing him outside of his comfort zone. I am the one who changes the schedule when he gets too comfortable with routine. I reward him for taking risks, and I keep him going when he melts down with perceived failures. I am the one who plays with him, but also has to tell him it’s time get back to work. I surround him with love. I piss him off.

I make sure he is learning, and growing.

I am to him, what life is to me.

The night this was made clear I had decided to reward him after completing a non-preferred task with using “okay Google” on my phone. He was thrilled! He got to ask one question. He got to see the answer. We got to talk about it.

And then I put the phone away.

Tsar-Nuclear-Explosion

With a red-face, and body contortions so extreme I thought we might have to call a priest, this kid proceeded to writhe all over the couch. I stood there calmly, taking loud enough breaths for him to hear. After what seemed like an eternity later he slithered onto the floor and started to breath with me. He wiped his tears, sharply stood up, and with raised up arms he said with a smile,

“OKAY I AM DONE!”

After a big hug were able to transition to the next activity. He was done, but he was not finished. Realistically, his meltdown did not take anything away but a few minutes of awkward observation on my end. It was more of a physical release than anything else.

For most of us, surrendering to an internal struggle is the best thing we can do to release it.

When you are brought down by life it is okay to meltdown for a bit with the intention of repairing so you can get back up stronger than before. Make friends with your breaking point, and even go a bit nuts. If you are thrower-lover find something appropriate to further release the tension, if you enjoy exercise do a bunch of frustrated push-ups, or sprint down the street. Do yoga. Call a trusted friend to word vomit to, or if you are a writer like myself, pick up a pen and without judgement jot down what you are really thinking.

Do something with your body to support your mind.

Because guess what?

We are not robots. Even the most ultra spiritual person can’t possibly have enough sage to smudge away certain stress.  Who knows? You might find a vegetarian eating bacon on their worst day. Or the most poised person yelling into their pillow when it all feels like too much.

This is all okay.

We all feel, we process, we absorb, and we carry on.

This is what it means to be human.

Maggie xo

It is surprising how sane you will become when you allow yourself to go a bit nuts.”

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Begin Within

It’s weird these days.

I have never been so in tune with the world around me, and the people not only in my life, but people I meet on the fly. I strive to make connections every where I go, and to spread a little bit of love. I look at things from a place inside of me that wants to become kinder and more compassionate with each day that goes by.

However, I also experience a world that shuts itself off. People tucking away emotions, experiences, and not really dealing with them.

“It is what it is,” or “I don’t have time for this.” Yet I see those same people giving energy to negative situations, experiences, and issues that clearly stem from not facing the thing we all need to do at some point, and continue to do periodically…

Heal ourselves.

What is self-healing?

It can mean different things to different people, but when I entered it into our favorite information mecca *Google* this is what came up “the process of recovery (generally from psychological disturbances, trauma, etc.), motivated by and directed by the patient, guided often only by instinct. Such a process encounters mixed fortunes due to its amateur nature, although self-motivation is a major asset.”

The great thing about self-healing is it can be addressed on various scales. It does NOT have to be scheduled therapy sessions for a year, or it can.

Once you check in to what would be best for YOU-you take it from there.

In the mean time, I’d like to offer a few simple ways you can begin your path to self-healing. The following suggestions come from my own personal experiences with each one, but I highly recommend if you feel you need to take it to another level to seek professional help, spiritual guidance, or a combo of both.

I have experienced counseling, coaching, and a spiritually-based program for self-healing.

I can promise finding what you need…will get you where you want to be.

3 Ways to Begin…

1. Meditate. Get on YouTube and sit with a guided healing meditation. They can be anywhere from 10 minutes to over an hour! In fact here’s a link to get you started: Positive Magazine

2. Write. Get on your computer or use a good old-fashion pencil and paper. Write whatever comes to mind about how you currently feel and whatever follows. You will be surprised at what gets released within this safe space between your mind and fingers.

3. Walk. Walk? What? Yea. Take a walk. Listen to some relaxing music and think about how you feel. If anything comes up text yourself (you know you’ll have your phone!) when you return from your walk, or pause periodically during your walk to enter in your phone what comes up. Keep documenting your walks and see what changes over time.

It is my sincerest hope that this post helps someone out there. If you connect with this in any way or would like to add to the suggestions please comment!

And please take care.

It starts, and ends, with me.
It starts, and ends…with me. 

Ready to Begin?

Maggie xo