I would like to share something written by a woman I admire, and have had the pleasure to work with over the last few months.
She is Big because she is not afraid to dig deep, and uses what she finds to positively move forward! I am proud of this Calla gal.
When I am Big
I am a mindful, centered, positive creator. I am helpful and giving to others in a way that doesn’t drain me or steal my energy.
I am dynamic and energetic with a thirst for life and change.
I am kind and compassionate from a place of love and not fear or anger.
I am strong and truthful and authentic and able to express my position with words of wisdom. I am free from the shackles of societal and familial pressures and forge my own path based on the whispers of my Heart.
I am slow moving through each present moment with a quiet mind and an open heart.
I am uplifted because the universe has my back and I put my wholehearted trust in that Divine Power.
That is who I am when I am Big.
I have never been so in tune with the world around me, and the people not only in my life, but people I meet on the fly. I strive to make connections every where I go, and to spread a little bit of love. I look at things from a place inside of me that wants to become kinder and more compassionate with each day that goes by.
However, I also experience a world that shuts itself off. People tucking away emotions, experiences, and not really dealing with them.
“It is what it is,” or “I don’t have time for this.” Yet I see those same people giving energy to negative situations, experiences, and issues that clearly stem from not facing the thing we all need to do at some point, and continue to do periodically…
What is self-healing?
It can mean different things to different people, but when I entered it into our favorite information mecca *Google* this is what came up “the process of recovery (generally from psychological disturbances, trauma, etc.), motivated by and directed by the patient, guided often only by instinct. Such a process encounters mixed fortunes due to its amateur nature, although self-motivation is a major asset.”
The great thing about self-healing is it can be addressed on various scales. It does NOT have to be scheduled therapy sessions for a year, or it can.
Once you check in to what would be best for YOU-you take it from there.
In the mean time, I’d like to offer a few simple ways you can begin your path to self-healing. The following suggestions come from my own personal experiences with each one, but I highly recommend if you feel you need to take it to another level to seek professional help, spiritual guidance, or a combo of both.
I have experienced counseling, coaching, and a spiritually-based program for self-healing.
I can promise finding what you need…will get you where you want to be.
3 Ways to Begin…
1. Meditate. Get on YouTube and sit with a guided healing meditation. They can be anywhere from 10 minutes to over an hour! In fact here’s a link to get you started: Positive Magazine
2. Write. Get on your computer or use a good old-fashion pencil and paper. Write whatever comes to mind about how you currently feel and whatever follows. You will be surprised at what gets released within this safe space between your mind and fingers.
3. Walk. Walk? What? Yea. Take a walk. Listen to some relaxing music and think about how you feel. If anything comes up text yourself (you know you’ll have your phone!) when you return from your walk, or pause periodically during your walk to enter in your phone what comes up. Keep documenting your walks and see what changes over time.
It is my sincerest hope that this post helps someone out there. If you connect with this in any way or would like to add to the suggestions please comment!
Not too long ago I took a quick trip to a new beautiful state. On my last day, I decided with the limited time to drop off the rental car, take a nice long sunshine walk back to my hotel, and explore the area.
Later on in the sunshine, as my tiny feet grew tired and I got closer to the end of my little adventure, I noticed a bright green grassy knoll filled with dandelions. Alongside the short wall dividing the green grass and the bright clean sidewalk my boots paved, the perfectly cotton ball-shaped dandelions were lined up, swaying in the breeze.
It was a loud busy street, but I didn’t care. Just like I did as a little girl, wishing to “save the world,” I picked up a dandelion and made a wish. Then I picked up another one, then another, and made a few more.
As a walked away from that quiet moment I realized it left me feeling really good. I knew the wishes made could come true, and I was capable of making them happen. In that moment I also remembered, in order to do that, I had to let go of the SHOULD, and be with the IS. Meaning, if I could accept life in the present, things might go a lot more smoothly. Overall, I often struggle with fighting the now, try to leap over to points anticipated, and end up getting hurt from tripping over myself. Plus, I missed out.
Because the lessons in life are mostly in the in between.
“Put your wishes out there with positive intentions! Share them with someone or write them down. How often do we make wishes with a defeatist attitude-keeping them as just far away dreams that will never come true? Do you really want to live your life never taking any chances to heighten your level of success? And I am not just writing about career or money. Wishes can be about anything…healthier relationships, reconnecting with someone, taking that trip you’ve thought about but never planned for, or starting that meditation routine you know will help with anxiety. Make a wish. Then evolve it into something outside your head and within your grasp. You can do it!”
This month’s theme is things I have done or still do to stay internally balanced. In the moment, or in general. It is important to have tools to use in the moment when feeling unsettled inside, but it is also just as important to create time in your life to maintain some balance.
It might feel like you are wasting time to take time out when you feel okay, or family keeps you incredibly busy, but the payoff comes when that balance is inevitably shifted by outside sources and you have established a foundation of practices to utilize.
Sit back, and enjoy your special Sunday with this light read. I am fairly certain you have done or do some of the listed things, and I am very hopeful you will find some things on this list to add to your tool box.
30 Things of Mental and Emotional Health
1. Gone for a long drive and sang to my favorite tunes. At the top of my lungs with a few enthusiastic arm gestures.
2. Pet something-an animal, a soft pillow, a significant other’s hair…getting in touch with a few of your five senses helps you get outside of your head.
3. “Word vomit”-as in text, call, or share with someone in person who I trust EXACTLY what is going on in my mind; no matter how ugly it might look or sound coming out.
4. Go for walks with some tunes I enjoy and make sure to ignore all messages or calls. Don’t worry, your loved ones will still be there if you are not electronically available for a bit.
5. Looked at old pics of loved ones from a time in my life I recall fondly. Not to ignore the present, but to remind myself all things are temporary. Good or not so good-this too shall pass.
6. Blocked someone on Facebook because I knew otherwise I would leave myself open to potential drama. Any opportunity I have to block that anywhere in my life, I do. It is not avoiding-it is letting go.
7. Checked in with someone I haven’t spoken with in a bit-it’s nice to reach outside yourself and reconnect for within that time you do, you feel more present.
8. Cried in the bathroom at work. Wiped the tears, smiled in the mirror, and went on with my day a little less burdened.
9. Played hooky from work and hit the beach. How great does it feel to be a little naughty and come back to your job refreshed?
10. Meditate-sitting, laying down, on my walks, and in the car. There is no right way to meditate. Only your way. Perhaps prayer is what keeps you grounded. Even something as simple as checking in with your breath. Stop. Take 4 deep breaths. Be still.
11. Gone to Target (or another store I like) and bought something I don’t need. Would not encourage this as a regular activity, but it is fun to indulge once in a while!
12. Screamed at the top of my lungs. Into a pillow, or in the car.
13. Let go of friendships after realizing we were living in the past, the present was unpleasant, or I needed to create more space for a positive future. Sometimes all of the above.
14. I take naps.
15. Tell the people I love-that I love them. How often do we hesitate though when we feel it? Get over that moment of hesitation, and tell the people you love that you love them. Often.
16. Thrown something-again not a highly recommended activity to do frequently and you will need an appropriate object (I have lost a few phones in the heat of the moment), but if you can align something nonperishable it can feel GREAT.
17. Blasted some fun music and had a solo dance party. Jumping on the bed or couch was always part of the choreography.
18. Written furiously in my journal like a hormonal teenager. Keep in mind as far as this goes it can be about all the extremes we go through emotionally at times, and everything in between!
19. Done a vigorous short workout to blow off some steam. Even if you are not a member of a gym or super active if you can find one activity to do with all your energy for a short amount of time-it WILL help.
20. I like to cook. It would add more stress to my life to bake as I am highly unskilled in this area, but for many it can be a relaxing experience. Does it mean you have to eat the entire project when the kitchen timer goes off? No! Share it or take a portion and put the rest away. The action of creating something is the point.
21. Let out a huge, throaty, dramatic :SIGH: combined with an extreme eye-roll…
22. Forced myself to try something new-even something as little as trying out a new restaurant or meeting new people with an old friend can stretch out my ever-so-tightly wound comfort zone.
23. Got on YouTube for a bit to see where it took me. If you have not done this yet please do. You will understand.
24. Cuddle. There are generally so many options-I cuddle my pets and family. Again, using one of the five senses brings you to the present and keeps you still during those moments of affection.
25. Accepted the fact that I will not always be balanced. Sometimes I don’t do a darn thing, and let whatever it is run its course.
It always does.
From followers via Facebook and Twitter:
26. “Books help also. Just escaping from the noise, entering a place of fantasy for awhile. I get lost in them often.“
27. “I like to sing when I am stressed out. (I asked where)…Everywhere!”
28. “Being balanced it can mean not being balanced for a moment and just saying forget it. Like throwing your hands up in the air and letting go of whatever you thought something was supposed to be like.”
29. “I like to play with my kids on the floor. Sit down with them and pretend I’ve got nothing but Barbie’s playhouse to worry about. Then I bond with my daughters too.”
30. “I keep journals, meditate, exercise, and cut off anyone or anything that no longer grows me.“
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