The Call

Reminder…

Sometimes sharing something with someone is just about that.

Simply sharing your thoughts, and your feelings.

Processing things on your own with a supporting sounding board.

And here is why this is so important on both ends, as the processor, and the listener:

Our highest parts can get muffled by the day to day we dive into mentally. Creating the space and time to truly listen to these higher parts is an amazing act of self-care that fills your cup. A cup you can then savor with its richness, and share with others.

And as a sounding board, you are simply providing an amazing act of generosity. 

Accepting who you are and what your heart desires is essential to healthy personal growth. You are on this planet one time, and will best serve it listening to the highest parts of you.
The parts that bring you the things your soul is drawn to; your way, and in your time.

A Wise Man once said Nothing

Maggie xo

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Lemon Self-Care

When life gives you lemons

it Sucks,

And that is Okay.

Sometimes there is a lesson,

and sometimes things just happen.

It doesn’t always have to make sense, love.

It’s okay not to search for the why.

And it’s okay to sit with the why me for a bit.

It is okay to be pissed off, and sad.

to Feel It.

I like my cocktails,

but when life gives me lemons I can’t turn to them much.

When life gives you lemons

You can toss them.

You don’t have to use them!

Maybe hold them for a moment; give them a feel.

They were given to you.

When life gives you lemons,

Eat your chips with chopsticks.

WorstdayEver

Maggie xo

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Anything, But

I mostly feed my soul with this blog, but for today, this post is not for me.

This is for the friend. The friend who wrote me that she is hurting because she feels like she does not know who she is anymore. She says the world took that away from her. She does not like herself when she looks in the mirror. She does not love herself.

“What do you think Maggie?” she asked me.

“What do you say about yourself?”

About myself?

Instantaneously I am compelled to answer that

I am grateful.

Bottom line.

Then I add….

I really like myself. Actually, I love myself. I am keenly aware of the things that make up who I am that I would not change, because then I would be changing the make up of who I am.

Sometimes though…this can be rather annoying…and I think it becomes this way when you REALLY start to like yourself. Love yourself. When you don’t really like or love you-these things can simply hurt. Sometimes…

It seems the world wants you to be anything but the realrawfreewildnonconforming Iamsohappyinmyownpersonalitybubblepleasedonotfreakinpopit-YOU.

So I try to be anything but.

What people that do not have their own best interests at heart, expect me to be.

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Maggie xo

Begin Within

It’s weird these days.

I have never been so in tune with the world around me, and the people not only in my life, but people I meet on the fly. I strive to make connections every where I go, and to spread a little bit of love. I look at things from a place inside of me that wants to become kinder and more compassionate with each day that goes by.

However, I also experience a world that shuts itself off. People tucking away emotions, experiences, and not really dealing with them.

“It is what it is,” or “I don’t have time for this.” Yet I see those same people giving energy to negative situations, experiences, and issues that clearly stem from not facing the thing we all need to do at some point, and continue to do periodically…

Heal ourselves.

What is self-healing?

It can mean different things to different people, but when I entered it into our favorite information mecca *Google* this is what came up “the process of recovery (generally from psychological disturbances, trauma, etc.), motivated by and directed by the patient, guided often only by instinct. Such a process encounters mixed fortunes due to its amateur nature, although self-motivation is a major asset.”

The great thing about self-healing is it can be addressed on various scales. It does NOT have to be scheduled therapy sessions for a year, or it can.

Once you check in to what would be best for YOU-you take it from there.

In the mean time, I’d like to offer a few simple ways you can begin your path to self-healing. The following suggestions come from my own personal experiences with each one, but I highly recommend if you feel you need to take it to another level to seek professional help, spiritual guidance, or a combo of both.

I have experienced counseling, coaching, and a spiritually-based program for self-healing.

I can promise finding what you need…will get you where you want to be.

3 Ways to Begin…

1. Meditate. Get on YouTube and sit with a guided healing meditation. They can be anywhere from 10 minutes to over an hour! In fact here’s a link to get you started: Positive Magazine

2. Write. Get on your computer or use a good old-fashion pencil and paper. Write whatever comes to mind about how you currently feel and whatever follows. You will be surprised at what gets released within this safe space between your mind and fingers.

3. Walk. Walk? What? Yea. Take a walk. Listen to some relaxing music and think about how you feel. If anything comes up text yourself (you know you’ll have your phone!) when you return from your walk, or pause periodically during your walk to enter in your phone what comes up. Keep documenting your walks and see what changes over time.

It is my sincerest hope that this post helps someone out there. If you connect with this in any way or would like to add to the suggestions please comment!

And please take care.

It starts, and ends, with me.
It starts, and ends…with me. 

Ready to Begin?

Maggie xo

Every Day

I have a good laugh every day.

Every single day.

It’s not something I force myself to do-because honestly I’m naturally pretty damn funny. Just made myself laugh right now from a text I sent someone else. With the intention to make them laugh… but it just happened to be really freaking funny alright?

The following are just a few things that make me laugh:

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Crying children
Awkward Family Photos
Awkward Family Photos
When someone makes fun of me
When someone makes fun of me (I am terrible at math)

The thing is-when you laugh every day certain things start to happen. You find it easier to get through tough stuff. You notice there are more opportunities in your life to have a laugh. There is no longer an honest effort to have a laugh on a daily basis; you just do. You also start to really resonate with how funny YOU are in you’re own funky unique way-and you become so easily entertained by your own humor it creates a better sense of self.

You are okay being alone. Because you’re not lonely.

So laugh.

Every day.

Maggie xo

Take 5

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This is one of those posts that  gives you AWESOME advice.

I know because I have taken this advice and put it into action most days (not too hard to do so I can’t complain). However, the advice and ideas shared are really geared towards the mothers, the career women, and the women who wear many (many) hats. If you’re a busy woman, Take 5, and keep reading…

Taking 5 or more minutes a day to be with yourself is an essential tool to maintaining a healthy state of mind. Not just when you are stressed, annoyed with the family, or busy at work. It is important to Take 5 when the day runs smoothly, when you’re busy but handling things okay, and when you DO have some down time. Sometimes when we have  a moment to spare we fill it up with something else to do. Which is fine sometimes, but other  times…you need to Take that 5.

To dig a bit deeper-sometimes it’s good to put down the phone and take a break doing something else. Whaaaa?? I know-it’s hard because we play candy crush for 10 minutes or check Instagram as a way to check out. Again, not too shabby of a break, but expanding our ideas beyond the normal things we grab to zone out is healthy for us. So below are a few ideas from yours truly; followed by responses from a few more women walking in your shoes.

Take 5

~Look up an article on something you are interested in or about something you have wanted to try i.e. a new yoga class.

~Stretch. Sit down and set the timer for 5 minutes of stretching. Guess what? If you do this often you’ll become more flexible AND learn how to be more present!

~Make a healthy snack plate. Often we just mindlessly grab from the pantry or fridge without taking a minute to put something together that would be truly satiating. I enjoy a good snack plate with crackers, cheese, and fruit.

From women via Facebook and Twitter

“I use essential oils! There are quite a few proven to help mood, so sometimes if I find myself getting overly frustrated or depressed or anxious, I march into my bathroom and get a drop of one of the oils…It takes less than a minute but helps immensely!” ~Cassandra

“Watch a YouTube video of one of my fav songs.” ~Chari

“Eat something I don’t treat myself too much. I just sit and savor the sweet!” ~Mal

“I do a Zumba dance from youtube.com.” ~Marissa

“I check Facebook. Mindlessly look at other people’s lives then face my own again.” ~Krista

“Or take a shot. Just……kidding?”Pouring Tequila Shot preview image

                                                    CHEERS!

 

“Once in a while you have to take a break and visit yourself.”~Audrey Giorgi

Maggie xo

Choices

Who you are matters.

What you do matters.

How you treat yourself matters.

How you treat others matters.

The decisions you make matter.

Like it or not, many of the decisions you make matter to others as well.

The choices you make are connected to something outside yourself. Even if it’s as small as grabbing a pair of socks at Target, taking a five-minute break at work, or sending your friend a quick text to confirm plans.

Friends,

If you ever think what you do and how you treat yourself does not really matter, or

Makes a difference…

It can not only make you apathetic, it can make youhurt-thomas-cooksey-00

Idle.

“I’m just one person. I don’t make a difference…”

:Sigh:

That’s not your sigh…it’s mine.

Guess what?

Lack of trying or caring

Can, and will…still

Matter, and make a difference.

To someone, or something.

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Maggie xo

Make a Wish…

Not too long ago I took a quick trip to a new beautiful state. On my last day, I decided with the limited time to drop off the rental car, take a nice long sunshine walk back to my hotel, and explore the area.

Later on in the sunshine, as my tiny feet grew tired and I got closer to the end of my little adventure, I noticed a bright green grassy knoll filled with dandelions. Alongside the short wall dividing the green grass and the bright clean sidewalk my boots paved, the perfectly cotton ball-shaped dandelions were lined up, swaying in the breeze.

It was a loud busy street, but I didn’t care. Just like I did as a little girl, wishing to “save the world,” I picked up a dandelion and made a wish. Then I picked up another one, then another, and made a few more.

As a walked away from that quiet moment I realized it left me feeling really good. I knew the wishes made could come true, and I was capable of making them happen. In that moment I also remembered, in order to do that, I had to let go of the SHOULD, and be with the IS. Meaning, if I could accept life in the present, things might go a lot more smoothly. Overall, I often struggle with fighting the now, try to leap over to points anticipated, and end up getting hurt from tripping over myself. Plus, I missed out.

Because the lessons in life are mostly in the in between.

“Put your wishes out there with positive intentions! Share them with someone or write them down.
How often do we make wishes with a defeatist attitude-keeping them as just far away dreams that will never come true? Do you really want to live your life never taking any chances to heighten your level of success?
And I am not just writing about career or money. Wishes can be about anything…healthier relationships, reconnecting with someone, taking that trip you’ve thought about but never planned for, or starting that meditation routine you know will help with anxiety.
Make a wish. Then evolve it into something outside your head and within your grasp. You can do it!”

~Callavida on Facebook

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Maggie xo

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Enjoy the Silence

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<— Can you relate to this? Can I even venture a guess that after a few seconds you might have a person (or people!) in mind? It’s okay-I won’t tell.

They’re the people that really drain you after a conversation. You might leave feeling like you’ve developed a slight headache, or need to lie face down on your bed and purge the multitude of thoughts now planted in your mind.

In the HSP community we call these people “vampires” because they literally suck the energy and brain power out of us. Unfortunately when you are a highly sensitive person you also attract these type of people. They’re the type of people that interrupt when you are *clearly* not done sharing, the ones who visually become uncomfortable when there is a lull in conversation, and who have to be right because being wrong means pausing from that constant internal dialogue supporting this belief.

They are also the people who never stop talking.

Unfortunately you might not always be able to shake these vampires every time you encounter one. Sometimes they are stuck in your life one way or another. It’s important to get rid of the ones you can, and to set boundaries with the ones you can’t. Fill your immediate circle with people who can enjoy the quiet with you sometimes, who listen to you, and gracefully cheer you on.

You need people like this in your life. One of my best friends has four kids, 0r 101 as she likes to put it. You should see her when there is some calm in the house, and she has just a few moments to play on her iPad or read a magazine in the sun. It is times like this it does not matter if have something to share because I see the silence is appreciated in a way I can’t relate to, and these cliffhanger minutes before someone needs something should be respected. Plus our mutual appreciation for quiet moments makes for a pleasurable non-speaking hangout. We don’t have to fill the space with constant conversation in order to feel connected to our friendship.

With that said are you comfortable sitting in silence with others, or furthermore, with yourself?

Can you sit on the couch with the TV off and read a magazine, or work on your computer? Can you turn off the music in the car for one ride and just be with your thoughts? Pause on the phone with someone without feeling weird, or sit with a friend and not say a word? It’s a great place to get to, and although you might not always arrive there on every occasion the more you practice being comfortable in silence the easier it becomes to be comfortable with silence.

Practice sitting with the quiet, and I bet you’ll hear more than you ever thought you would. Who knows, you might even end up enjoying it.

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Maggie xo

30/Somethings

30 Things on Womanhood

A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”
― Coco Chanel

1. In the beauty department we have an endless amount of choices-painted nails or not painted, jeans or skirts, or both!

2. Our presence can be of great comfort to anyone because we wear our hearts on our sleeves; at least many of us do.

3. We live longer.

5. Girl-friendships…need I say more?

6. As difficult as it can be to reach that point of fully resonating with our worth and potential once we get there-we are unstoppable!

7. We pay less for car insurance.

8. We say what we mean and we mean what we say.

9.  Becoming single is almost always a guarantee we will to improve ourselves. Both internally and externally.

10. Often we know before we know, and then when we realize we know, we are 100% certain of what we know.

11. We have doors held open for us. A small but  simply sweet gesture we get to experience on hopefully many occasions.

12. We make our loved ones feel safe in a different way that stems from a place of nurture.

13. Cooking is now optional. Wear the apron or order in!

14. If you look up a woman’s love in the dictionary it SHOULD have the word “loyal” somewhere in there…

15. We are considerate, even when we don’t have to be.

From followers via Facebook and Twitter:

1. “I like our nurturing caring nature. Our ability to put our children before us.“~Jennifer

2. “I’m wary of gender stereotyping, BUT in my experience…we seem better at nurturing, putting the well-being of others first (especially family), multi-tasking, plus empathy and finding things! But in terms of nature (vs nurture), I am most grateful for my basic biology. I would have been sad to miss out on pregnancy and breast-feeding my babies.” ~Anjali

3. “I also love our ability to multi-task like a goddess, even when we are running on empty!” ~Helen

4. “A woman’s strength knows no boundaries. It is limitless in the time of need. For herself, for her family, for others.” ~Marissa

5. “Curves.” ~FB

6.  “We can carry a whole other life inside of us then feed from our bosom, pretty incredible if you think about it. Maybe one day I’ll know first hand…” ~Nickie

7. “As a woman, we know without being told or understood how strong we are. Look at what we have to endure during childbirth. Even if you haven’t had kids of your own, you are still capable of immortal strength. Also the range of our compassion is boundless because we can be tough as nails or soft and pliable depending on the situation.  Being a woman is the best gift I have ever been given in life because my legs looks damn good in my 4″ heels.” ~Rochelle

8. “Make up play! (being able to hide flaws if we want).” ~Krista

9. “I can wear a bunch of different hats and that is really fun! I  am always me but have options on how that shows.” ~Twitter

10. “Sometimes we are judged for tears but for the most part I can cry whenever I want and it does not make me look like less of a woman!” ~May 

11. “I agree with Nickie . It is pretty freakin awesome that we could grow another human being and be their main food source for 6+ months. We create life and that life depends on us to live.” ~Vanessa

12. “Boobs! Come on who doesn’t like boobs they serve so many purposes lol.” ~Twitter

13. “Women know how to get the party started. They also know how to plan and end the party.” ~Hub Pages

14. “It’s just nice to feel beautiful and we can make that happen in so many different ways.” ~Jas

15. “EVERY WOMAN…SHE IS ME, SHE’S BOLD AND STRONG, AND LOVE CREATES HER DESTINY! I AM SHE, AND SHE IS ME!” ~Christine

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Maggie xo