Who you are and where you are are two different things.
What we believe about ourselves, and the core of who we are does not change just because our surroundings and life might. How comforting is that?
For me, it is very comforting.
The times I choose to remember that.
You see, it can become a mental habit to equate ourselves to where we are externally in life. If we have a job we don’t love or make less than we desire it is easy to think we might not be worth finding something better. If you are in your 30s+ and single, there are people who will always be confused as shit by this, or if you are in a relationship but choose not to get married there are people who will always be uncomfortable as shit by this. Married? Where is the kid? Kid? You just want one?
Here comes that shit again.
Embrace everything YOUR soul desires. It is not anyone else’s to do so!
And just as you are-you are simply you, and you are just fine.
The major parts of your heart, character, and natural gifts cannot be shaken when life moves you. In any direction, good or not so good. Even finding that exciting job that makes you happy to get up in the morning, and the compensation to match, or finding that person who gives you all the butterflies will not change that.
It adds to the you you already are, but it does not change it.
Finding your POP, your point of peace, is all about grounding into this part of yourself that cannot be shaken when life moves you.
Because here is what happens when you do not learn ways to come back to yourself.
You will generally witness yourself in the midst of two moods:
In an extremely positive mood, or in an extremely negative one.
This is not a healthy way to live, but many of us do it because we have not learned to gently hold and care for our core. We give it to our circumstances, mostly being other people, and allow it to be shaped.
So how do we exercise this form of self-preservation?
IT TAKES WORK.
You need to continuously work on accessing your POP!
Here are a few ways to get started:
1) Know Thyself-if you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses you can share your strengths with others while working on your challenges.
2) Compete with yourself-stop comparing yourself to other people in your life and set goals that reflect where you are and where you want to be. You are your own worst critic right? So why not be your own best cheerleader too?
3) Accept your feelings-what? I always accept my feelings! You might, but guess what else you do? You run with them, parade them around and magnify them! Stop taking one moment of frustration and turning it into a “bad day.” Accepting how you feel is actually a great first step to letting go of feelings and thoughts that are no longer serving you.
If you hold on to the core of who you are, and care for it, everything that stems from it will be authentic, organic, strong as hell, and true.
No matter where you are.