The Call


Sometimes sharing something with someone is just about that.

Simply sharing your thoughts, and your feelings.

Processing things on your own with a supporting sounding board.

And here is why this is so important on both ends, as the processor, and the listener:

Our highest parts can get muffled by the day to day we dive into mentally. Creating the space and time to truly listen to these higher parts is an amazing act of self-care that fills your cup. A cup you can then savor with its richness, and share with others.

And as a sounding board, you are simply providing an amazing act of generosity. 

Accepting who you are and what your heart desires is essential to healthy personal growth. You are on this planet one time, and will best serve it listening to the highest parts of you.
The parts that bring you the things your soul is drawn to; your way, and in your time.

A Wise Man once said Nothing

Maggie xo

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The Green will Make you Grow


Ahhh good old-fashioned, passive-aggressive acting, in your face confronting, insecurity creating, paranoid thought manifesting, Debbie downing speaking


Jealousy is pretty taboo among women because we are really not interested in sharing a side of ourselves that exposes such a personal vulnerability. And it is my honest genuine opinion that this is exactly what jealousy equals=vulnerable.

So I brought it up to a group of over 100 women from all walks of life,

 and asked this question…

Ladies, when you feel that twinge of jealousy with other women how do you react to it? What thoughts crossed your mind? 

Leonardo da vinci

I really don’t know. I have recently become the one to be looked at that way. (Just being honest, not vain or rude) I had people tell me they are and its not in a mean way, At least I don’t think it is lol, but its nice to just say it and then let it go. ~Charlene


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As much as jealousy can sometimes come out in ways we feel kind of “icky” about, it can teach us something if we dig past that first layer of heat. It’s totally okay to shrug it off if we understand our general triggers, but if it becomes something reoccurring, or that really puts a fire under our tush then it IS important to uncover the “WHY.”


It’s lessened over time since becoming involved with metaphysics and self awareness practice…when it snuck up on me the other day and I caught it, my thought was “she might not even like that feature of hers, in fact it may be smoke and mirrors, IN FACT she may want what I or someone else has instead of what she does!!” And then it went away and she was an equal again.” ~Ali


Although it can be uncomfortable revealing my “WHY” there is some relief in it. After
figuring out why (or simply acknowledging why) I am clinging on to a jealous feeling, or moment there follows growth. Because I
have just tapped into something I can work with. Something more logical, and less reactive. In this way actually, now that I think about it…you can do this with any negative emotions really.

It’s okay to experience jealous feelings. It’s okay to look at the girl with the seemingly perfect body or perfect partner or the perfect career and feel a little green. We ALL have those moments. What is NOT okay is acting upon them, using them as an excuse to put ourselves down, or not dealing with the WHY when it is more intense.

Face your shit ladies, or let it go.

The green will make you grow.

Maggie xo

The Dressing Room

Ladies, you know for most of us we dread the dressing room. It is this dingy horribly-lit private place to look at your body from all angles whilst knowing half the clothes you brought in will probably not fit well, and you foresee at least two more trips back in your shopping future . You held them up at the rack, you chose the sizes you normally wear, yet when you go into that dressing room…


On this occasion I’m standing in the dressing room at Target about to try on jeans. They’re a brand I already have a few pairs of so I’m feeling hopeful. I had the size I usually wear and one size up. I decided to try on the bigger size first because I thought they’d be bigger, and that would feel good.

It didn’t. They were insanely tight! I did the standard squats to see if they’d loosen up a bitpants-too-tight-cartoon-final-cropped but they stayed sticking to my skin. I checked the tag to see if I misread the size, but the bigger number stared back at me.

And then I felt bad.

I peeled the jeans off and frowned over at the smaller-sized pair. I told myself to try them on anyway. Maybe if I could squeeze into them to feel the discomfort of the tightness it would motivate me to change my ways immediately. I could scold myself mentally as well while I stared in the mirror. A kind of punishing act I guess?


they fit.

They fit perfectly.

I shook my head and chuckled at my reflection.

I was so amused by what happened that I immediately posted to my Facebook women’s group about my experience and the troubles of shopping for clothes. There were comments upon comments with women sharing similar points of view.


It is all those thoughts that go on in our mind when we look into the mirror, and feel confused about what we are trying on. It’s that confusion that makes us doubt, and the doubt that can turn into negative thinking.

I decided it was time to get out of there, and with another light laugh I left my negative thoughts in the dressing room.

I waved goodbye to my insecurities, and doubts. Because I understood that it was ridiculous for me to make sense of how I felt about my body based on clothes that didn’t make any sense when on my body. Made by people who may not generally come down to the dressing room, and make sense of the average female’s experience alone in there.

I decided that in the future, any decisions I came to around where to take my physical appearance would not be made in the dressing room.

And then I felt good.

Maggie xo

Real Genius

I’m back teaching summer school

and my TA is a T.N.

Total. Nerd.

I don’t mean the cute Joseph Gordon-Levitt type. I  mean the kid who wears a shirt that has a periodic table with the quote “I wear this shirt periodically,” a joseph-gordon-levitt-02mouth full of braces, is as pale as he is skinny, and doesn’t know how to answer a simple question such as “Do you like working with kids,” but can go off on a tangent about the chemical composition of carbon dioxide in an alka-seltzer tab we’re using to make lava.       I am not even sure I know what that last sentence means.

He drives me crazy.

For 3rd and 4th period I teach a Chemistry in the Kitchen class to 1st and 2nd grade children. We basically put together  stuff that comes from the kitchen in hopes of the following:

1) An explosion.

2) An overflow of ingredients.

3) That it is something we can eat.

It’s a SUPER basic class, and because my specialty is reading and language arts I pride myself on having kept it simple for the last 4 years I’ve taught it. Now this kid shows up and does one or more of the following every day:

1) Corrects the terms I use like “pyramid” to “tetrahedron.”

2) Half cleans up when I ask him to clean up stuff. He only seems to focus on the immediate area around him, and not the entire classroom.

3) Spends 1-2 hours coming up with formulas for simple experiments I ask him to set up like making soda with a bit of baking soda, fruit punch powder, and water.

Let me touch on the last one and finally get to my point. Again this kid drives me crazy. He can be hardly helpful at times because he will sit at the back of the classroom writing out formulas or doodling pictures of the experiments he is supposed to actually ya know, be setting up in real life.

However, the day we were supposed to make the fruit punch soda I taught him something, and he taught me. After spending the first two hours of school writing out formulas and doing taste tests to see if there was a perfect scientific calculation formula thingy between the baking soda, water, and fruit punch he told me it was impossible to make the fizz without the drink tasting super bitter.

So asked him,

“Hey…did you just put the two into the water to taste? Like did you NOT calculate anything and just add in what you thought might work?”

“Um…huh? I tested a few samples from my calculations and-“

That’s a nope.

We went into the classroom. I put a teeny bit of baking soda, half a cup of water, and most of the fruit punch packet in the water. Voilà! Fizz, and a horrifyingly too-sweet drink any kid would love. He tasted it, paused, and replied “Uh ya that tastes pretty good.”

What did he learn? Sometimes its NOT about the perfect calculation for the perfect formula for the perfect result.

The real genius in life is understanding that sometimes the perfect result comes from an imperfect process.

Kinda like my life…

What did I learn? Patience. Although he drives me crazy this is a 14 year-old kid still figuring things out. Rather than forcing any ideas into his head I allow him the space to explore his position in our class in his own nerdy way. I also make sure to praise him highly in the occasional occasion his expertise come in handy.

I’m sure one day this kid will turn out to be just as cool as I am.  He will blossom into one of those confident nerds and meet someone who finds his interest in YouTubing Chemistry crash courses fascinating (this is a current hobby of his).


and he’ll be just fine.

Maggie xo


Welcome to the first of my themed-list I call “30/Somethings.” It will be a monthly list dishing out 25 confessions, ideas, or tips that will end with 5 to match from followers of Callavida.

This month’s theme is things I have done to keep a man around, or gain his attention. The list varies from innocent gestures to ones that reflect the self-worth issues I struggled with over the years. Which makes this post all that more of a gem. You will read this and the majority of you will relate to at least one number on the list. You will look back and maybe cringe. Perhaps you’ll chuckle, or even smile. I did all three!

So sit back, please enjoy, reflect, be amused, and be kind.

30 Things of Love and Crushes

1. Waiting for a date to arrive at a restaurant I “posed.” Posed as in “If I look outside like I am deep in thought and not anticipating his arrival he will find me more desirable.”

2. Offered to go to second base because I didn’t want the popular boy to dump me. I had no intention to, and he eventually did.

3. Stayed quiet when I disagreed with a boyfriend because I thought if I spoke up he would either chew me out or like me less. Silence for this reason has backfired on me in more than one relationship.

4. Drank so much to impress the guy I was visiting in college I ended up in the hospital, and in jail. True story.

5. Placed myself strategically in the line of sight of a crush so he could see my best “assets.” Pun intended. I have a big butt. He never noticed, but other guys did!

6. Told my crush a girl I knew had a crush on him so I could talk to him at school every day and perhaps he would end up liking me . There was no girl, and it worked.

7. Let an ex borrow my car even when I knew he was probably going to another girl’s house. He said he’d be back in an hour and arrived after six. Classic.

8. Spent hours cooking in the kitchen not for myself but so my man would think I was “wife” material, and love me more. It didn’t work.

9. Left a party in a dramatic huff because a girl was flirting with my man and I thought if I left he would chase me. He did not.

10. Chose not to call “bs” on my man when he did not come home one night because I thought he would think I was super easy-going and with that new found appreciation stay home more. I don’t think I have to explain how this turned out..!

11. Told a guy “no” once when he said he thought we should break up. He was a little surprised by that so it took him a few more weeks to officially break up with me.

12. Lied about my relationship status to another guy I really wanted to reconnect with because I thought it would make him jealous. He was just happy for me because his new relationship was going very well too…

13.  Pretended to believe an ex when I found a condom in his trash and he said that he did have girl over but they did not have sex just to avoid arguing with him. Yes, you are reading that correctly.

14. Changed my hair color for a guy who mentioned liking a particular shade.

15. Let a guy bring all his friends over so I could cook for them even though I did not have a lot of money and he did not offer to get the groceries. I thought if his friends liked my cooking they would talk me up to him. They just got really drunk, and one guy threw up on my kitchen floor.

16. Pretended to like a guy’s freestyle rap even though it was terrible and made me feel uncomfortable having him look me dead in the eye as he spit his rhymes. He was really, really attractive.

17. Went to a guy’s house at any hour he called me to come over because I thought working with his schedule would make me look carefree and flexible.

18. Had an ex call me from my own house super pissed because I was not home, so I rushed back because I didn’t want him to be angry with me.

19. Lied to a girl that called me saying she was the girlfriend of the guy I was seeing because I wanted to keep him around. Pretty embarrassed over that one.

20. Dated a guy whose house I never went to, nor he to mine. So we pretty much dated out of his car. Found out he had a fiance, and a kid.

21. Slept on the couch for about 3 months when I would stay with my ex. Because even though I knew our relationship was over, he was not saying anything, and I thought having a boyfriend would be better than being single.

22. First year in college I delivered a cocktail from my own stash almost every weekend to my crush’s dorm room. He would kiss my cheek, thank me, and then keep talking to whomever was in there with him. I felt that sufficed at the time.

23. Went to church with my first love’s friends because I thought if he heard about it he would like me even more. I am not Catholic, or even religious. He never said a thing.

24. Stopped wearing a t-shirt I loved because my man said he did not like that color on me.

25. Wore the favorite t-shirt of that same man the day I knew he was coming over to dump me. When I answered the door he said “Why did you have to wear that t-shirt,” and proceeded with the dumping.

From followers via Facebook and Twitter:

26. “Pretend to be interested in something the guy is interested in, ie. a certain kind of music, sport, once I feigned interest in anime….Yea that lasted like a week, then I couldn’t fake it anymore lol. I’m just not into comics…. Or dressing like them.”

27. “So I just read ur post about things u did to keep a man around….visit him in 3 different prisons over 2 years and married him in on his release date???? In my defense I did it thinking if he saw what a good loving devoted woman I was maybe and hopefully it would want to make him a better man and good to me forever…ha that backfired.”

28. “Spent LOTS of money in order to keep them. Co-signed for a car. Paid all the bills.”

29. “Inviting my son’s father to join us when I picked him up because if we were all together he would know it was right and we belonged together. Uhhh nevermind I picked my son up at the house where he lived with his lady! I was more stuck on the idea of family than what was best for everyone.”

30. “I can’t believe I did this smh I took prenatal vitamins because this guy I liked in high school dated girls with long hair. I like my short hair anyway why did I do that. He didn’t even know my name! Smh.”

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Magdelena xo